Tofimua Matagi鈥檚 grandmother had a nifty way of checking to see if her grandsons arrived home safely each night - by looking for their work boots outside the back door.
But when Tofi鈥檚 boots remained missing on the morning of Friday, September 1, nana Ligi Sisikefu grew worried and began making phone calls; first to the hospital and then to her grandson鈥檚 workplace.
Tofi, 25, would later be identified as the man found unresponsive after an assault at the Richardson鈥檚 Bar and Restaurant in Mt Roskill, Auckland, late on August 31.
Despite medical assistance, he died at the scene. Two days later, a 34-year-old man was arrested and聽charged with murder.
Speaking publicly for the first time, Tofi鈥檚 family shared more about their son and brother, who had only been back in New Zealand since June after getting stuck in Niue before Covid-19 turned the world upside down.
鈥淲e have six children - three girls, three boys,鈥 his Australia-based father, Reverend Dr Matagi Vilitama says.
鈥淎ll of them were very, very close and tight-knit.鈥
Vilitama reveals Tofi, who is the second youngest, had been working as a mechanic in Niue when he injured his back. He came to New Zealand to seek medical attention.
Tofimua Matagi, 25, died at a bar and restaurant in Mt Roskill, Auckland, on August 31.
Instead of going back to Niue, the young man decided to stay to help financially support his little sister, who had just started university. He got a powder-coating job and was planning to start a mechanic internship next year.
The siblings and another brother and his young family stayed together at the family house with their grandmother.
On the night he died, Tofi was invited by workmates to dinner at the Richardson鈥檚 bar and restaurant.
鈥淗e had dinner with them, had a couple of drinks. He鈥檚 an avid darts player. So of course, once he found out there was a darts board in the premises, he gravitated towards that.鈥
Vilitama said his mother-in-law received a text from Tofi that evening.
鈥淚t said: 鈥楴ana, I鈥檓 going to be a little bit late tonight鈥. His brother鈥檚 a builder and nana would always go outside and go to the back room and see the two pairs of boots and notice that they鈥檙e both in. But she could only see one pair of boots.
鈥淢idway through the night, she went back again - there鈥檚 only one pair. Tofi鈥檚 boots were not there, so she knew he hadn鈥檛 been in.鈥
Police later arrived to break the news to the family. Tofi鈥檚 older brother was tasked to call his parents, in Australia, to tell them.
鈥淗e just told us to sit down and [the police] had told him bad news,鈥 Vilitama says, becoming emotional.
Rev Dr Matagi Vilitama and wife Joanna Matagi with a photo of their son Tofi Matagi, who died after being assaulted on August 31. Photo / Michael Craig
More than 1000 people packed Auckland鈥檚 Newton Pacific Islands Presbyterian Church to celebrate Tofi鈥檚 life. Other services were held for family and friends in Niue.
His father says the huge turnout was a testament to the person Tofi was - friendly, kind, a man who valued friendships and was always looking out for the underdog.
鈥淥ne of the fundamental teachings that we have, as Christians, is forgiveness. It鈥檚 an important part of life. We do acknowledge and need to acknowledge the pain, the anger and the sense that we鈥檝e been robbed of a son.
鈥淏ut I don鈥檛 think it鈥檚 wise for any of us to carry hatred or even vengeance in our hearts because ... it will affect us who carry that.
鈥淲hat I鈥檇 like for people to do is to learn to let go and to forgive. That鈥檚 Tofi鈥檚 mantra: 鈥楬old no grudges鈥.鈥
鈥淭hat was something he鈥檇 always say and that鈥檚 something that reminded our family and ... it鈥檚 the same message that I think we need to share with our community.鈥
Despite that forgiveness, Vilitama expressed how raw it still was to grieve for a son in his 20s and navigate the family鈥檚 new reality.
鈥淲e wouldn鈥檛 wish this on any family,鈥 he says.
鈥淛ust love deeply, tell your children how much you love them and just share your love for one another. We do not know what tomorrow brings. The old are expected to die, but the young can die.鈥
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