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Mum who lost toddler to child cancer speaks of ‘hole that cannot be filled’

Author
Nathan Morton,
Publish Date
Sat, 30 Sep 2023, 3:35pm

Mum who lost toddler to child cancer speaks of ‘hole that cannot be filled’

Author
Nathan Morton,
Publish Date
Sat, 30 Sep 2023, 3:35pm

Next week will mark two months since Lena Schroeter鈥檚 toddler died, a tragedy that struck so suddenly and left her only grief and pain.

鈥淓veryone carries on with their lives as normal but all I wanted to do was sit and remember her,鈥 said Schroeter.

鈥淭he pain without her is indescribable and I miss her immensely.鈥

Her child, Amelia was killed by neuroblastoma - a child cancer branded 鈥渢he silent tumour鈥 that affected 6 per cent of all child cancer patients between 2000 and 2019.

Next week will mark two months since Lena Schroeter's baby Amelia passed away.Next week will mark two months since Lena Schroeter's baby Amelia passed away.

It鈥檚 the fourth most common childhood cancer, accounting for a quarter of all cancers diagnosed in the first year of life. Yet Schroeter never knew her daughter had it because the symptoms were so concealed.

Schroeter鈥檚 journey as a mother had started well.

Her daughter was born in August 2021. The birth was described as 鈥渢extbook鈥, Schroeter said Amelia鈥檚 arrival into the world couldn鈥檛 have gone better.

In November last year, she found Amelia sporting a prominent black eye, which she tied to a small tumble she鈥檇 had at the bottom step of the house.

A quick doctor鈥檚 check-up didn鈥檛 reveal anything serious, but she was back two weeks later with a swollen eye.

鈥淲e thought she might have an infection,鈥 said Schroeter.

鈥淭hey thought it could be conjunctivitis so we were sent home with cream - but the swelling got worse.鈥

Over the weeks, Amelia had shown odd changes in behaviour. Her usually energetic nature had turned to fatigue. She鈥檇 stopped eating her favourite foods and was struggling to sleep.

Her abdomen began to swell. Schroeter didn鈥檛 think much of it until her doctor referred the case to a paediatrician - they were keen to get Amelia scanned at Nelson Hospital.

A ten-hour wait in the emergency department led to blood tests and scans, all revealing 鈥渟omething was there鈥.

What started with a swollen eye turned into a cancer diagnosis, throwing Amelia into sudden chemotherapy treatment. What started with a swollen eye turned into a cancer diagnosis, throwing Amelia into sudden chemotherapy treatment.

Staying overnight in the paediatric ward, Schroeter was brought into a room and given worrying news - a mass was found behind her daughter鈥檚 eye and she would need to be airlifted to Christchurch that day for treatment.

鈥淭hat was pretty much how the whirlwind journey began,鈥 she said.

鈥淚t was just full on - from one thing to the next, our lives were turned upside down and you鈥檝e got this massive battle in front of you.鈥

Eight days and numerous tests later, Amelia was officially diagnosed with neuroblastoma.

Schroeter experienced what she described as 鈥渋nformation overload鈥 as her daughter began intensive chemotherapy. The treatment as a whole was expected to last a year and a half.

鈥淵ou鈥檙e just thinking, 鈥楬ow am I supposed to go through that?鈥. You have no idea how to comprehend cancer treatments for your 15-month-old.鈥

Oncologists told the Nelson mother her daughter鈥檚 cancer was aggressive and at stage 4, her survival odds were 50 per cent over five years.

Away from home and living in a Christchurch cancer ward, Schroeter watched her toddler endure an eight-hour surgery and numerous injections in an attempt to beat the cancer.

Amelia's chemotherapy treatment was expected to last a year and a half.Amelia's chemotherapy treatment was expected to last a year and a half.

Moments of hope, when scans showed the chemotherapy wiping away toxic cells, turned into discouragement as Amelia鈥檚 body became overloaded with fluid.

She was flown to Starship Children鈥檚 Hospital in Auckland with breathing problems and treated in the Paediatric Intensive Care Unit (PICU).

The rollercoaster continued, with the child 鈥測o-yo鈥檇鈥 between PICU and the cancer ward. Some days a hopeful message suggested she would recover, but other days saw Amelia鈥檚 condition rapidly decrease.

鈥淲e got taken into a room and told that she wasn鈥檛 doing too well, that they were quite concerned,鈥 said Schroeter.

鈥淎s a parent, you just hope with all your might there鈥檚 something you can do and hope for a medical miracle.鈥

The miracle never arrived, her condition continued to drop and Amelia passed away on July 28.

Schroeter was told if she鈥檇 brought her daughter into the hospital two months earlier than she had, it was still unlikely the outcome would have been any different.

鈥淚t鈥檚 an aggressive cancer but I read that some call it the silent tumour, the symptoms are so subtle,鈥 she said.

鈥淵ou don鈥檛 tie what she had to the worst thing possible, nobody would. And that鈥檚 the horrible thing - you don鈥檛 expect a fresh, new child to get cancer.鈥

The Nelson resident returned from her daughter鈥檚 funeral carrying the weight of what she鈥檇 journeyed for nine months, reflecting on the 鈥渂iggest blessing of my life鈥 to be Amelia鈥檚 mum.

鈥淚 would give anything to cuddle her and see her beautiful smile again,鈥 she said.

鈥淚t鈥檚 an immense sadness, a huge hole that cannot be filled. But I am also finding great comfort and smiles in all the memories I made with her in her short time with us.鈥

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month, Schroeter paid tribute to the families in Christchurch who were also journeying neuroblastoma treatments, they helped her along the process.

She was thankful to have organisations like the Child Cancer Foundation - which provided practical help, from free groceries and counselling to heavy contributions towards funeral costs.

Even her workplace stepped up to help when times got particularly difficult, a comprehensive community that Schroeter said was critical for walking through such tragedy.

鈥淵ou鈥檙e thrown into this world outside of normal life, I鈥檓 blown away by those there to support you,鈥 said Schroeter.

鈥淲ithout them you鈥檇 be so lost, the generosity to listen and to be a shoulder to cry on. Having support and not being afraid to ask for help is a big thing for something like that.鈥

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