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'I love us madly and badly to pieces': Nurse's secret affair with prisoner

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Open Justice,
Publish Date
Mon, 2 Oct 2023, 2:07pm
Photo / NZ Herald
Photo / NZ Herald

'I love us madly and badly to pieces': Nurse's secret affair with prisoner

Author
Open Justice,
Publish Date
Mon, 2 Oct 2023, 2:07pm

His code name for her was 鈥淢s X鈥 and she called him 鈥渂eautiful鈥 and 鈥済orgeous鈥 and told him: 鈥淚 love you and I miss you so much, I got you and I love us madly and badly to pieces鈥.

But it wasn鈥檛 a typical love story because he was a prisoner and she was his mental health nurse.

Now she has been suspended and referred by the Health and Disability Commissioner to a process that could result in her being struck off the register of nurses.

The prison nurse was caught having a forbidden sexual relationship with the prisoner she was counselling after the man was caught with contraband and prison staff began monitoring his phone calls in mid-2021.

When the inappropriate relationship was discovered staff reviewed video footage of a session that showed the pair went off camera to a room behind a glass door where the prisoner could be seen lying on top of the nurse for about 90 seconds.

They also had phone sex and on one occasion the man told the nurse to 鈥渢ake your knickers off鈥, and they reminisced about previous sexual encounters including in a supermarket car park where they were 鈥渁pparently witnessed by a trolley pusher鈥.

Deputy Health and Disability Commissioner Dr Vanessa Caldwell鈥檚 report, released today, said one of the phone conversations included the man saying: 鈥淐an鈥檛 wait to come home and having cooking鈥.

Ms X responded: 鈥淚f the food ever gets made鈥. Mr B, as the prisoner was identified, discussed 鈥渋nterrupting鈥 Ms X while cooking and said: 鈥淚t鈥檚 all about the timing with the cooking and the lovemaking鈥.

Ms X responded: 鈥淗eaven鈥.

It was unclear in the report how the prisoner was able to be in a supermarket car park and an HDC spokeswoman confirmed the relationship did not start prior to the man being jailed.

The lovers had nicknames for each other including 鈥渕y darling鈥 and 鈥渕y baby鈥 and the phone calls, often extremely graphic and sexually explicit in nature, took place up to three times a day.

They were recorded by the Prison Telephone Monitoring System. In one call in August 2021 Mr B and Ms X declared their love for each other.

Mr B said: 鈥淧lease have a safe drive back. I love you. I miss you. I got you and I love us madly and badly to f pieces鈥.

The phone call ended with Ms X saying: 鈥淕oodnight my darling, always in my heart, always in my mind. I鈥檓 always there for you beautiful, I love you.鈥

Once the nurse was late to work because the pair were having phone sex.

Deputy Health and Disability Commissioner Dr Vanessa Caldwell said the nurse blurred professional boundaries. Photo / Supplied

Deputy Health and Disability Commissioner Dr Vanessa Caldwell said the nurse blurred professional boundaries. Photo / Supplied

In the call that turned out to be their last on September 30, 2021, Mr B told the nurse to remove her knickers.

She responded: 鈥淚 can鈥檛, I have to go in, I鈥檓 sorry. I hate having to say no, you know that鈥, and then she giggled.

It was the same day the prisoner and registered nurse, identified as RN A, were videoed leaving the prison interview room to an area not completely visible to the room鈥檚 camera.

鈥淗DC has viewed this footage, which shows, through a glass door panel, RN A lying on the ground, facing upward, and Mr B lying on top of her,鈥 Caldwell said in her investigation report.

鈥淭hey appear to be in this position for approximately one minute and 30 seconds before they both get up to their feet.鈥

The nurse was confronted by the prison director about the video footage of her engaging in physical contact with Mr B, with the director asking RN A if she 鈥渉ad been got鈥.

The phrase was a prison term that referred to when a person was manipulated by a prisoner into doing something unprofessional or illegal that they didn鈥檛 want to, that breached the Code of Conduct.

However, the nurse did not respond to the allegations except to say in her resignation to the Primary Health Organisation she worked for: 鈥淚 sincerely apologise for the difficult situation I leave behind鈥.

She emailed a final message to the prisoner.

鈥淗i my darling, I don鈥檛 even know if you will get this. I don鈥檛 know what is going on for you there I just hope you are ok and that nothing bad has happened to you. I don鈥檛 know what you know about what happened for me, hopefully someone has talked to you鈥.

鈥淗ell I don鈥檛 even know if I will ever hear from you again. Train wreck eh! 鈥 Be safe my darling and I hope I hear from you one day. If I don鈥檛, well I still wouldn鈥檛 change a thing. xx鈥.

In total the nurse conducted 105 sessions with the prisoner over two years from October 2019.

Caldwell said the nurse鈥檚 relationship with Mr B breached fundamental ethical standards because of the power imbalance between clinician and patient.

鈥淚 do not consider that such a relationship being consensual alters this fact. This power imbalance will always mean there is the potential for abuse of the nurse鈥檚 professional position and harm to the health consumer.鈥

She referred RN A to the Director of Proceedings to decide whether disciplinary charges would be laid. If so, the case would be heard by the Health Practitioners Disciplinary Tribunal.

Caldwell did not find the PHO in breach of the Code of Health and Disability Services Consumers鈥 Rights.

Natalie Akoorie is the Open Justice deputy editor, based in Waikato and covering crime and justice nationally. Natalie first joined the Herald in 2011 and has been a journalist in New Zealand and overseas for 27 years, recently covering health, social issues, local government, and the regions.

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