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'How can this happen to us?' Parents of teen who died after fall share their pain

Author
Carolyne Meng-Yee,
Publish Date
Sun, 13 Nov 2022, 10:00am
Samuel Finnemore had the “the sweetest heart”, his parents say. Photo / Supplied
Samuel Finnemore had the 鈥渢he sweetest heart鈥, his parents say. Photo / Supplied

'How can this happen to us?' Parents of teen who died after fall share their pain

Author
Carolyne Meng-Yee,
Publish Date
Sun, 13 Nov 2022, 10:00am

The first time Lisa Finnemore held her son Samuel the bells at East London鈥檚 Bow Church chimed and she knew straight away he was exceptionally kind-hearted and that was his gift to the world.

Samuel Finnemore, 19, died in the early hours on November 1 when he accidentally fell through his bedroom window at Matipo St in the Christchurch suburb of Riccarton.

In their first interview at their Devonport home in Auckland, Sam鈥檚 parents Lisa and Cameron opened up about their son, who had 鈥渢he sweetest heart鈥, and everyone loved.

鈥淲e got the horrible knock on the door at 6am that no parent wants to get,鈥 Lisa told the听Herald on Sunday.

听鈥淚t is very difficult to understand how this happened given our son had the agility of a cat. I thought this can鈥檛 be true; how can this happen to us? But this does happen and when the police come to your door and say your son鈥檚 died, you know there is no mistake.鈥

Lisa and Cameron, parents of Samuel Finnemore. Photo / Michael Craig

Lisa and Cameron, parents of Samuel Finnemore. Photo / Michael Craig

On the night of the tragedy, Sam had been studying for an exam the next day and chatting to his friends online. His parents are still trying to figure out exactly what happened

鈥淪am got up in the night around 4am and for some reason fell through the first-floor bay window, and we don鈥檛 know why. He wasn鈥檛 a sleepwalker and we believe there was nothing untoward - it was a tragic accident. It was a very hot night in Christchurch and we think he might have taken his bedclothes off and tripped on them,鈥 his mum said.

An autopsy was completed last week and police said they were continuing to treat the circumstances of the teenager鈥檚 death as unexplained.

Sam, a 鈥減recious IVF child鈥, was born in London but moved to New Zealand with his parents when he was a child, first to Wellington and then Auckland, before moving to Christchurch to attend the University of Canterbury.

Samuel Finnemore, as a baby, died falling through a window in Christchurch. Photo / Supplied

Samuel Finnemore, as a baby, died falling through a window in Christchurch. Photo / Supplied

He was farewelled at St Andrew鈥檚 College Centennial Chapel in Christchurch on Wednesday.

His parents said he was a happy, grounded and beautiful soul. A gifted snowboarder, he won several national age group titles and the Wanaka community treated him like a son. He died two days before his 20th birthday.

To celebrate his birthday after his death, a group of his friends went to the beach with cheesecake - his favourite - and watched the sun set then let off fireworks in honour of him.

听鈥淪ammy was very wise and never said a bad word about anyone, he was generous and a good friend to his friends,鈥 Lisa said.

鈥淗e worked harder than the average student because he had dyslexia. But he was an action man. He loved the outdoors, snowboarding, fishing, running, swimming and going to the beach. He lived his life to the absolute fullest and we poured everything into.鈥

The parents want something good to come out of Samuel Finnemore鈥檚 death. Photo / Supplied

The parents want something good to come out of Samuel Finnemore鈥檚 death. Photo / Supplied

His father, Cameron, wanted to thank Sam鈥檚 teachers at Kristin school, the Wanaka community and the University of Canterbury for all their support and helping Sam to grow and develop.

鈥淲e want to thank everyone for their support including both our workplaces. Sammy鈥檚 flatmates and the students from the University are the best of humanity, we have never felt such an outpouring of love and compassion. They have been so amazing, they are giving Sammy a diploma. The Wanaka community is planting a memorial forest for Sammy at the entrance to the ski field where he drove past.鈥

The parents want something good to come out of Sam鈥檚 death and have set up a Givealittle page so a child can pursue their dream of becoming a world-class athlete.

鈥淚 miss Sammy鈥檚 spontaneity, his smile and his love of life,鈥 Cameron said.

鈥淚 think Sam would want us to live a good life and help others. He would want Lisa and I to go on but it鈥檚 a hard road to walk and we are only at the beginning of it.鈥

Lisa is crushed her son will never walk through their front door again and she has a message for mothers: 鈥淎s a mother I used to worry about a lot of things but I learnt to let Sammy go and live his life. Mums, love your babies, just accept them and love them exactly as they are. The most important thing is the love you give your child, they are not here forever, make the most of it. Hug them and love them.鈥

To donate to Sam鈥檚 parents fund for a gifted child, go to听

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